Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Laurie Halse Anderson's "Speak" and Pornography

A long time ago I decided not to get into arguments over the internet. If I feel strongly about something I'll say my piece and move on. I'm pretty good about following that rule, but sometimes I just can't let something go. Last night was one of those times.

A right-wing sensationalistic "newspaper" found out that some middle schoolers in Florida were assigned the book Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson. Some parents got upset when the realized that the book is about a girl that was raped between her eighth and ninth grade school years--she was 13 when the rape occurred. The book follows her through her ninth-grade year. It's a painful book to read; the girl is so young and the violation so major. But it's a well-written book. It's written in the vernacular of high-school students and talks about the cliques and hypocrisy that can exist in high school. It's clearly not the only book on rape and it's not at all a handbook on what to do after you are raped. It's a book that follows this one girl after she was raped.

The "newspaper" found great glee in calling Speak "child pornography (they used the words probably ten times in a short article.)." It pulled out quotes from the book that use the word "abortion" or "pissed." A group of homeschoolers got up in arms about this book of child pornography based on this article. It was soundly condemned and people that would consider letting their children read it were considered to be lax parents at best.

The thing is, none of these parents had ever read it. They probably hadn't even heard of it until the article was brought to their attention. When I spoke up and said that I had read it and there was absolutely no graphic retelling of the story and even if there had been, it was a description of a rape, their response was that talking about rape or sex in any way, shape, or form is pornography. 

This is wrong. I'm not saying that everyone should run out, buy the book, and hand it to their five-year-old. I'm saying that in the proper context and with guidance an 8th grader should be able to read this book.

Here's another thing about Speak. My copy of the book has an interview with the author at the end. She was asked if she had any surprising reactions to the book. She said that her most surprising reaction was from boys. They were surprised that rape actually hurt the girl so much. 

Let me repeat that. Boys were surprised that raping a girl actually hurt the girl. 

That is why we need this book. So that boys can see, in a safe place, that rape hurts girls. How in the world are we failing to teach boys that rape hurts? How in the world are we failing them that badly and how in the world are we failing our girls as well? 

For that reason alone I think that every boy and girl should read this book. It's fiction, I recognize that, but it's description of what this girl went through and will go through for years is spot-on. In Speak, Melinda literally cannot speak because of what was done to her. 

We need to speak up. Speak is not child pornography and if you use it as pornography it's a good thing to know so we can keep you away from our children. We need this book. We need to make sure our boys know that rape hurts. We need our girls to know where they can go in order to be listened to.

We need to do better. 




Saturday, August 24, 2013

Week 1A

I've learned over the last few years that the first week of school never goes like I want it too. Getting back into the swing of things always takes longer than I expect or want it to. So last year I decided to give myself two weeks to accomplish the things I think should take one. It worked last year and it took a lot of stress off of my, so we did it again this year.

Annika and Emma both started at a local elementary school on Monday. Annika went there last year and is now in third grade and Emma just started kindergarten. You read that right...my baby is in kindergarten. So far I'm doing well, but just thinking about that is strange. I remember days that I thought I'd never see the end of preschoolers, potty training, and that chaos. And here I am, at the end.

The girls were really happy to both start and be back at school. And because we were friends with the principal (who is now gone) from the school, they got good teachers and classes. While I would like to homeschool the girls, I'm happy with the teachers they have.

Now to the actual homeschoolers in the family. Harry is in 7th (!) grade and Sam in 5th. As much as I can't believe I have a kindergartener, I really can't believe I have a 7th grader.

This is kind of an important year for Harry. Next year he will go to 8th grade at the local middle school and then onto high school at the school down the way. He's looking forward to school and I'm looking forward to new things for him, but I'm not thrilled that he's going to school. But it is what it is.

My plan for the year is to firm up his writing, continue in math, and do more science and history. Harry enjoys history, so he's working his way through Human Odyssey. We won't be doing a lot of projects and fun work because I want to focus on other areas. Science has always been a hodgepodge because Harry reads so much, so I'm not real worried about that. But I have printed some New York Times science page articles and the lesson plans that go with them. I want him to read those and we'll work on some of the projects and questions. Harry is technically doing Algebra I this year. He's actually working through So You Really Want to Learn Maths and the Key to Algebra books. And for Language Arts...we have a variety of resources to use. Like I said, I want him to work on his writing--he writes well but hasn't done much in the way of papers. We have the 4th level of Michael Clay Thompson's language arts program which includes a book called Advanced Academic Writing. AAW's lessons are meant to be a little more long-term than just write a paragraph and move on. They are designed to give Harry the chance to research and then write a longer paper. I think it'll be perfect for preparing him for more writing. He'll also work on Writing With Skill level 2 when it comes out and the poetry, grammar, and vocabulary in the MCT level.

I've already taught one child 5th grade, but that child is nothing like my current 5th grader so I get to start over planning again. I keep saying that Sam is incredibly smart, he just needs a way to let people know that. I've worked for a few years to build up his confidence and help him learn to make decisions. This year I'm requiring him to use these skills. I'm not letting him get away with not answering or not doing something. Of course I'm not an ogre, so there are incentives and other ways I plan to get him to do what he needs to. Anyway. He's using Math Mammoth 5 for math with a supplement on geometry and measurements. Language Arts is MCT level 3 minus the writing. I did the writing book with Harry last year and wasn't impressed. Instead he'll use Writing with Skill level 1. Science will be So You Really Want to Learn Science and history is History Odyssey. Sam likes projects where Harry loathes them.

They will be taking classes at the charter school. Harry has a full day there and Sam will take some classes there but focus again on pottery. He really loves pottery.

And that's the overall plan for the year. On to Week 1B...

Thursday, August 08, 2013

Schedules

I'm working on our schedule for this coming school year and it's kind of frightening. I am homeschooling my older two boys in 7th and 5th grades and my little girls will be in school, 3rd grade and kindergarten. The boys have a day of coop type classes and Sam takes pottery as his main outside activity.

I knew it would be crazy, but this is one of my days:

Annika starts school: 8:45
Harry & Sam to classes: 10:00
Emma school: 11:50
Pick up Sam for pottery: 12:30
Drop him off at potter: 1:00
Pick Sam back up: 2:30
Drop Sam off for another class: 3:15
Pick Annika and Emma up from school: 3:25
Pick up Harry & Sam: 4:00

The rest of the days aren't quite so bad, but I will be driving to and from the girls' school at least three times a day, every day.

Good thing I like my car a lot.